I began talking with my doctor about freezing my eggs when I was in my late 20s. Year after year, she told me I had more than enough time and I needed to stop worrying. I listened to her even though I felt that biological clock ticking like a freaking time bomb. I did not enjoy the pressure of feeling rushed to jump into a relationship simply because I was getting older. I felt like I was running out of time, and I began making excuses for all of the red flags I saw in the men I dated. In some cases I was even lowering my standards, and I put up with non-sense I wouldn’t have otherwise tolerated. The thought of freezing my eggs continuously popped into my mind, but I would always manage to talk myself out of it. Then one night I was having drinks with a dear friend, and she told me she had started early menopause. My heart broke for her as tears fell from my eyes. In that very moment, my decision was made. I knew I never wanted to be told that I didn’t have the option of having children.
That week I went to RMA for a consultation, but it didn’t go as smoothly as I had anticipated. My doctor found 6 massive fibroid tumors that had completely taken over my entire reproductive system. I needed to have surgery to remove them before I could even move forward with freezing my eggs. Had I not gone in for the consultation, then I never would have found the tumors, and I would have had to have a full hysterectomy. God certainly does work in mysterious ways, that’s for sure!
When it was time to move forward, I learned that my health insurance did not cover one penny towards egg freezing. (Which is absolutely ridiculous!) Therefore, I had researched all of my options and decided to go through a 3rd party called WINFertility. I highly recommend them as they made everything so incredibly easy, and they even saved me $6K! :) Before starting the process, I had a video call with a nurse provided by WinFertility, and she walked me step by step through everything. She answered all of my questions, and gave me a lot of useful tips. I’m not going to lie, it was VERY overwhelming, but she certainly put my nerves at ease.
Freezing your eggs is a personal journey which every woman handles very differently. There may be some emotional, uncomfortable, or even painful moments. There may be some positive, serene, or even powerful moments. There may be a mixture of all of those moments plus more along with a little bit of crazy. After all, you are injecting yourself with a massive amount of hormones twice a day for 2 weeks straight. That in itself is crazy! Personally, I felt a sense of empowerment. I was less stressed and more at peace, simply because I was taking control over something that would otherwise control me. The most difficult part of my journey was actually getting passed the initial injection. I nearly had a panic attack leading up to it. Once I gave myself the injection (which was quick and painless) I realized I was just being a baby, and literally laughed out loud at myself. It was truly nothing to fear!
I am very lucky and happy to say I have 16 eggs frozen. The weight of the world was instantly lifted off my shoulders, and I feel like I can breathe easily again. I no longer feel the pressure of jumping into a relationship for the wrong reasons. Also, I am really glad that I listened to my doctor and waited. The advancements in technology, and the changes to the retrieval/freezing process has only increased the survival rates resulting in a much greater chance of actually having children when it’s time to move passed the freezing stage.
If you are toying with the idea of freezing your eggs and would like to talk with someone who has already been through it, then please feel free to reach out. I will try my best to answer any questions you may have. Obviously I’m not a doctor, but I can certainly share more about my experience, and hopefully shed some light on the entire process.